Love Doctor

—Summer Lawson, Staff Writer—

Being aware of the intentions with your partner is key, dating doesn’t just mean love and intimacy. There are many different types of relationships and before starting, some definitions need to be put in place. Not everyone’s relationship will be a standard committed or romantic relationship, the following are all valid relationships here to educate you. Here are some of the basics:

Term Definition
Committed relationship an interpersonal relationship based upon a mutually agreed-upon commitment to one another involving exclusivity, honesty, trust or some other agreed-upon behavior. The term is most commonly used with informal relationships, such as “going steady,” but may encompass any relationship where an expressed commitment is involved.
Monogamy having a single long-term sexual partner.
Polygamy having multiple long-term sexual partners.
Open relationship one or both members of a committed (or married) couple have the express freedom to become sexually active with others
Polyamory the practice of, or desire for, intimate relationships with more than one partner, with the knowledge of all partners.
Casual dating or a casual relationship a physical and emotional relationship between two people – without necessarily demanding or expecting the extra commitments of a more formal romantic relationship.
Relationship anarchy the belief that relationships should not be bound by rules aside from what the people involved mutually agree upon.

If you and your partner agree on a type of relationship other than the standard Committed Relationship and have no intention of getting married, have fun, you’re in high school there’s no need to worry about marriage at this age. On the flip side, if you

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and your partner agree on a long term committed relationship you must know what you’re getting yourself into.

I’m no Love Doctor, but numbers don’t lie. In a magazine article written by Andrew Fiouzi, he states that, “In 2014, less than 2 percent of all marriages were between high school sweethearts.” So, sorry to get your hopes up, but relationships in high school usually don’t last. In fact, in that same articles it says that, “…divorce rates within the first 10 years for high school sweethearts (54 percent) were much higher than the average American couple (32 percent).” Not that this is what will happen to everyone, but the dream about having a high school sweetheart isn’t very practical. More times than none, you won’t be with your partner forever, so why not have fun instead of focusing on settling down at such a young age?  

All in all, like I said before- I don’t know much about relationships, they aren’t really my thing, but from past experiences I do know that its a joint effort. Both you and your partner have to be giving 100% at all times, or it will fall off. And the “rough patches” or “hiccups” are just part of the obstacle, so don’t get discouraged. Long term relationships including emotional and physical attachment aren’t for everyone and figuring that out can be tough, that’s why high school is the best time to experiment with different things.